Relationships are tricky. There's pressure on both parties and there's a quiet but persistent nagging in the back of their minds saying, "Don't mess this up! Don't look like a fool!"
Of course, with these silly nerves bothering them all day every day, it's easy to fall into bad habits. Sometimes women will go a little too far in their attempts to keep the relationship going and sometimes women can be absolute queens and can handle everything that comes their way with grace, ease, and confidence.
Not everyone is equipped to pull off the smoothest relationships, so some tend to flounder. There's a reason guys call girls "crazy." As much as a girl may not want to admit it, there are times when she really does act so out of character that her partner thinks she's lost it. This usually occurs when she's trying to make things run smoothly and she puts in a little too much effort.
So what are the top ten ways in which a girl is trying too hard? What are the top ten ways in which a girl is owning her situation? Here's a list explaining all ladies need to know about when they're trying too hard and when they're on point:
20 She's Trying Too Hard: When She Always Does What He Wants
It's so easy to get caught up in the moment. You want to make a good impression with your partner so you think you'll just go along with what he wants for a little while.
The problem is it's very easy to turn this little gesture of love into a serious habit.
What makes this such a big issue is once you start going with the flow, it can be difficult to stop. What's worse is if you always go along with what he wants because you're afraid to displease him. Ladies, NEVER GIVE HIM ALL THE POWER! When you do, you're just setting yourself up for a doomed relationship and a lot of heartaches.
19 He's Hooked: When She Prioritizes Other Things
When a girl is dating but she isn't afraid to do what she wants in her spare time, she's definitely on point in her relationship. She knows she's got other priorities to take care of and if her partner's schedule doesn't fit with hers then she just makes plans to meet up at a later date. When a girl knows how to prioritize the important things in her life, she's telling her partner that she can't be swayed—she's going to do what she needs to do and if he can't handle it then he certainly can't handle being her boyfriend.
18 She's Trying Too Hard: She's Always Waiting On Him
When a girl first starts dating someone, she's excited. She wants to spend every possible moment with her new love and she's willing to go out of her way or even rearrange a few things in her life to accommodate her date's schedule.
While there's nothing wrong with this every now and then, a girl who habitually clears her schedule in hopes of making time for her partner is setting herself up.
By waiting on him, she's missing out on opportunities to hang out with her friends and family, which often results in weaker relationships with those who were part of her life before.
17 He's Hooked: She's Got Plans Of Her Own
If she's got plans of her own, guaranteed she's living her best life already—her new partner just happens to be a little something extra. While it's important for people to give their lovers a little more attention than others, it's also important for them to keep up with their own projects, friends, family, and general interests. The truth is, it doesn't matter if it's a guy or a girl—everyone needs to have a life outside of their romantic partnership. If a person lets themselves become solely reliant on their partner and the relationship ends, then not only is that person all alone now but they're also aimless.
16 She's Trying Too Hard: When She Makes Excuses For Him
Sometimes our partners let us down and it is due to circumstances entirely outside of their control. When this happens, it's normal to explain the situation to your parents over the dinner he was supposed to meet you at.
However, what isn't okay is when you're constantly having to come up with excuses for why he isn't showing up to parties, meetings, prearranged events, and other social excursions.
Sometimes the excuses you have to make are for other things as well, like why he doesn't have a job and why you're paying all of his bills. There are a lot of questions that people will ask because they seem like red flags. If you're constantly having to explain away his faults, then you're definitely trying too hard.
15 He's Hooked: When She Calls Him Out On His Misbehavior
Women who are empowered and know what they're worth tend to be more outspoken when their partners start to misbehave. If she's on a date and he starts snapping his fingers at the waiter or talking down to the servers, she's definitely going to call him out on his rudeness. He's either going to start behaving or he's going to get kicked out of the relationship! Women who are on point in their relationships know exactly when and how much power to use, and using her power to keep her man from acting like a child is one of the best ways she can prove that she's on the right track.
14 She's Trying Too Hard: She's A "Yes" Girl
A "yes" girl is the type of woman who will always stand by her man, regardless of who is right or who is wrong. She will tell him he's right, she'll encourage him to stand strong and she's going to always follow his lead. Why?
Because she's too insecure to stand up for herself and to contradict him in any way.
Even if she really doesn't want to do something, she's hoping he'll be pleased with her acceptance and she'll do whatever he wants whenever he wants. The problem with this is she's pushing herself too hard for someone who doesn't deserve her.
13 He's Hooked: She Isn't Afraid To Say "No"
She comes home from work and it's his day off. He says she should make dinner and she rolls her eyes, says, "No" and goes out for dinner without him. When he asks for unreasonable things or tries to pressure her into making decisions he favors all the time, she's ready to give him a solid "no" whenever she needs to. Remember, this doesn't mean she is always the decision-maker, it just means she knows when to say no and when to give in. A relationship can be a fragile thing if not cared for properly. A woman who is perfectly on point in her relational responsibilities understands that sometimes she's got to put her foot down and her man will know that sometimes he's got to be the one to do it, either way, they know they have to work as a team—giving and receiving equally.
12 She's Trying Too Hard: When She Doesn't Listen To Her Friends' Warnings
Real friends don't try to sabotage their friends' relationships. In fact, real friends aren't afraid to tell the truth—especially when they're seeing red flags sprouting all over the place.
A girl is trying too hard when she refuses to listen to those closest to her when they try to offer sage advice.
She's so in love she can't see all the issues that are coming from her bad relationship. The thing about friends who truly care about each other is they never really give up. Unfortunately, love can blind a person so a girl who is trying too hard might even push her friends away for the sake of her ill-advised love.
11 He's Hooked: When She Considers Everyone's Opinions
Being a good friend means you're willing to at least listen to what they have to say. If your friends are telling you things that don't exactly paint your lover in the best light, don't just blindly refuse to hear them out. Listen to what they have to say, do a little research of your own and decide how to handle the situation. Sometimes people get things wrong, and there are some things you may be willing to overlook but don't push your friends away. This situation can also serve as an opportunity to talk to the person in question to see what they have to say about the things from their past. Though it might lead to a break-up, it might also lead to a stronger relationship in the end.
10 She's Trying Too Hard: She Uses The "L" Word Without Fully Understanding And Meaning It
The word "love" is so overused that many people don't know what it really means anymore. They might feel an initial infatuation and so they tell their partner that they love them after dating them for a very short amount of time.
This can (rightly) scare off potential relationship partners because they do understand what love is and if things are just starting out, love is definitely not on the table yet.
Any woman who jumps into using the "L" word too quickly is likely guilty of not truly understanding how deeply the word can impact another person or what it means to truly feel.
9 He's Hooked: She Takes Her Time To Analyze Her Feelings
Rather than spout out the first thing she thinks, a girl who has got herself together will take the necessary time to really evaluate how she feels before blurting out the "L" word. There are a lot of strong emotions that come with dating someone—especially if the feelings have been cultivating for a significant amount of time. Unfortunately, many people come to realize that what they believed to be love was actually a form of infatuation mixed with hope and excitement. In the end, a woman who is on point in her efforts recognizes that she shouldn't take the "L" word lightly. If she's careful with it, then when she finally decides to say it, her partner will appreciate it and accept it as the real deal.
8 She's Trying Too Hard: When She Texts And Calls Him All The Time
She's in love with him so she figures she'll text him "Good Morning." When he replies, she's so happy she just needs to respond with a picture so he can see her smiling face. He might not respond to the picture because he's getting ready, but she doesn't know that so she sends more messages and more messages.
Pretty soon he's going to stop responding because she's coming on way too strong.
When he goes silent, she just keeps messaging and messaging him. This isn't okay—she's going overboard and sabotaging her own relationship. Ladies, let him breathe. Don't blow up his phone! If he wants to talk to you, he'll message or call you.
7 He's Hooked: When She's Not Dependent On Him For Her Happiness
A girl who knows how to have a good time without her man is definitely on point in the relationship. She knows she can go out with friends, stay in with a good book or can call him up to hang out. She doesn't need to blow up his phone, demanding his full attention all hours of the day and night—she's secure in the fact that he's hers. If she's ever blowing up his phone, it's because there's a real emergency and she's freaking out, not because she wants to hear his voice or know that he's waiting, with bated breath, for her call or text.
6 She's Trying Too Hard: The Relationship Is Built On Physical Aspects
Any girl who uses physical favors as a means of securing a man is in for a rough ride. She's got to be prepared for the day he's ready to move on. No matter what promises she makes or what she's willing to do on a physical level, he's going to leave because a real relationship is built on so much more than that.
He's going to want something real, some kind of evidence she actually loves him, but if she's not able to offer that much, he's not going to stick around.
Worse still is the woman who shows her love physically and he takes what she has to offer without ever giving her his heart in return. Just don't do it—if you do, you're definitely trying too hard to keep a disintegrating relationship together.
5 He's Hooked: She Breaks The Physical Barrier When She's Ready
We're definitely not encouraging women to use physical affection as a means of controlling things in a relationship—we're just saying she knows when she's ready to be physical and she's not going to just jump into things without considering the possible repercussions first. Will he respect her after? Will he want anything more, anything on a spiritual, mental, intellectual level? Are they already in love or is it just a whim? While these thoughts run through her mind, she's also aware that she isn't going to just leave him hanging forever—when it comes to physical parts of the relationship, she's going to make sure it actually means something.
4 She's Trying Too Hard: She Uses All Her Money On His Happiness
When a woman is in love, it's very easy for her to be taken advantage of. This is actually true of men too. Anyone who is willing to let themselves be taken advantage of in a relationship is going to wake up one day and be devastated when they realize the truth: they were just being used.
Some people know they're being used but they're so in love they're willing to continue the relationship regardless.
Ladies, if this sounds like you, it's important to understand you're trying way too hard and no man, no woman, no anyone is ever worth that kind of debasement.
3 He's Hooked: She Offers To Pay Sometimes But Expects Equality
A girl who is on point in the relationship understands that she will never be able to buy his happiness, but more importantly, she knows he can't buy her happiness either. It just makes sense for her to offer to pay sometimes when they go out, but she absolutely knows better than to let him get away with having her pay every time they head out for a date. She knows that if he respects her at all, he'll be paying for half of their outings and he will also be gracious enough to accept the times she's willing to pay as well.
2 She's Trying Too Hard: When She's Bragging About Being With Him
We all know that one girl who brags about bagging one of the most handsome, one of the richest or one of the most popular guys in school/work/whatever.
She's proud to be with him not because she loves him, but because she knows so many other women want him and she's the one he chose.
She's flaunting the fact that she's with him. That isn't love and she's trying way too hard to make other women jealous. The sad part is in most instances, the guy finds out how bad she's being and will usually end up leaving her.
1 He's Hooked: When He's Bragging About Being With Her
When a woman is doing her own thing, she doesn't have to brag about being with the most eligible bachelor—she's too busy leading and enjoying her life. In fact, she's so on point with things that he's the one who brags about being with her! He's so proud that she's got goals and she's working hard to reach them. He's immensely proud of the fact that she knows how to balance her time and isn't always hanging around him, blowing up his phone or trying to guilt him into hanging out with her. The relationship is balanced and both parties are just happy to be together.
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